I'm pregnant for a womaniser


January 10, 2017

Dear Pastor,

I am 27 years old and I am having a problem. I have been living with a 43-year-old man for five years. He has six children, and now I am pregnant with my first child for him.

This man sent me to school and I have my bachelor's. I could have left him, but, Pastor, I love him.

My parents didn't help me, so I got a job in a supermarket. This man used to shop there, and I noticed that he would put himself out of the way just to talk to me.

He asked me one day if I had a boyfriend and I told him yes, but it was a lie.

Another day he came back to the store and told me that he is going to take me away from my boyfriend. He asked me for my number and I gave him.

By the end of the week, we became close friends. I told him that I was not interested in having a boyfriend unless the boyfriend could help me to go to school.

When I found out that he started having children when he was very young, I told him that I wasn't interested in children.

My mother told me that I should take the chance with him if he would help me go to school.

He sent me to school for three years. I did not have to work. I did not have to worry about school fees.


One day I was helping to clean out his car and I saw a condom wrapper and I asked him about it and he admitted that he had sex with one of his co-workers in the car.

I was so upset. To make matters worse, he asked me why I was making a fuss about it when I knew from the beginning that he loved sex, and if I did not know that if a man keeps one woman, his manhood goes down.

I thought of leaving him, but I couldn't because he helped me to get an education, so I stayed with him. I am now pregnant, and he is so proud of it.

He wants us to get married, but I can't get out of my mind what he told me about keeping more than one woman.


Dear R.A.,

I could never recommend that you leave this man. He loves women.

You didn't run from him when he told you how many children he had. You took your mother's advice and took him in your life. This man put you through school.

Without him, you would have had a very difficult time accomplishing your goals. I am not implying that every young woman should do what you did.

I have tried to change the words that this man told you when you found the condom wrapper in the car. You could have walked out on him, but you weighed the matter correctly and you stayed with him.

You did not want this man to feel that you were ungrateful, and frankly, I can see that you have grown to love him.

I would suggest that both of you go to see a discuss your concerns.


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