Don't care if I'm 'robbing the cradle'


February 11, 2017

Dear Pastor,

Age is just a number. I am a 60-year-old woman and my boyfriend is 45. No man my age can take his place. A lot of men are jealous over the younger men who have big women like me. People tell me I don't look my age.

I have four children and my man has three. Only one of my children is with us and one of his. His children love me, especially the one that lives with us. He calls me mother.

When I was in need of a carpenter to do some work on my house, someone introduced him to me. He came and repaired my roof and my ceiling and promised to repair some tiles in my bathroom.

He charged me little to nothing for the work that he did. He charged me half the amount another carpenter had charged me.

One day, he said to me, "How come a big man doesn't live here?" I told him I didn't have a man, and he said, "From today, I am here."

I did not know he was so young, but after I found out his age, I decided that it was too late for me to turn back, and my children liked him.

The only regrets I have, Pastor, is that I can't get pregnant again. I would love to have a child for him. He has his own house.

We decided that we would live at my house and he would rent his house. Some people have it to say that I am robbing the cradle, but he is a big man.

He makes me feel young and he can handle himself well, Pastor.

We are talking about getting married and going to church. We would like to come to your church because we listen to you at night and we like what you say.

Pastor, we crave your advice, but don't tell us to leave each other because that won't work.


Dear J.G.,

I do not intend to tell you to leave your man. You know what you want in a man and he knows what he wants in a woman.

And although you are a woman who is 15 years his senior, if both of you are happy, then so be it. Now, you don't have to go out to find somebody to go and do the work around the house.

All you would need is the material, and the labour is free. Of course, I know that nothing is totally free.

You, I am sure, are doing your part in keeping this man happy and strong, so all I have to do is to wish both of you happiness and good health.

If you would like to attend the church I pastor, it is First Baptist Church on Sandringham Avenue. It is very close to Half-Way Tree.


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