He says I'm trying to give him a 'jacket'


February 21, 2017
Pregnant mother

Dear Pastor,

I was deceived big time. I was having a relationship with a man for 10 years. He told me he wanted us to have a child together.

After I became pregnant, he told me to get rid of the pregnancy, but I refused to do so. So, I am now pregnant and he is saying that he is not the father of the child I am carrying.

I am deeply hurt and I really need some help and advice. I have been in and out of hospital.


Dear Unnamed,

I am sorry to hear that you are not handling your situation very well and I could understand why.

Here is a man who gave you the impression for 10 years that he loved you and convinced you to agree to become pregnant by him.

And now that it has happened he has turned his back on you, so to speak. The first thing was to insult you by saying that he is not responsible for your pregnancy.

That would hurt any woman who knows that she has not played around and had affairs with other men.

This is a time when you will have to rely on family and friends for moral and, perhaps, financial support.

If you have been with this man for 10 years, you are probably either close to 30 or over.

Make sure that you keep a diary and write down all that you have been spending as a result of this pregnancy. You will have to try your very best to keep calm.

Don't go begging him for anything. He has already insulted you and he is treating you as a doormat. Keep a record of his behaviour.

Then soon after you have given birth, take him to court for child support.


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