I want to leave my man


February 21, 2017

Dear Pastor,

My life is sad and I really need your advice. I am 22 and my boyfriend is 26. I no longer love him, because of the things he used to do to me in the past.

Every time I tell him that I don't love him or act a strange way towards him, he doesn't seem to care.

I left him once, but we got back together because he begged me and I felt sorry for him. I am really uncomfortable, because I don't love him.

I don't want to have sex with him, but I have to force myself just to avoid an argument. I wish he would forget about me, but it doesn't seem like that's going to happen anytime soon.

I don't want to walk away because I don't want to hurt him again. But I wish he would just give up on me. Please tell me what to do.


Dear T.S.,

I suggest that you tell this man that the love you had for him has died. Tell him straight up that it has died and the things that you are doing for him are not out of love.

Tell him that you have been pretending for a long time that you love him, and you have resisted the temptation to walk away from him because you do not want to hurt him.

If you are speaking the truth about the lack of love that you have for this man, I challenge you to tell him that you do not love him.

If you are not working, ask him to help you in getting a job because you want to be able to support yourself.

As I see it, it is not a matter of not wanting to help him why you are sticking around. It is because you want this man's money.

You say you have to force yourself to have sex with him. Don't be afraid to tell him so.

I am sure you have discovered that having sex with such a man under these circumstances is like playing the role of a paid prostitute.


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