I want to stop beating up my girlfriend


March 02, 2017

Dear Pastor,

I am a 22-year-old university student. I have been with my current girlfriend for six years and I truly love her.

Naturally, most Jamaican men are scared to be cheated on, and I share the same problem. My fear of infidelity has powered my mind and body with anger and I end up losing control.

Lately, I find that I have started to physically abuse her. This bring tears to my eyes. This was never the man I wanted to become.

Now she is threatening to leave me and I cannot blame her; it is natural that she must do what it takes to feel comfortable.

I need your help, Pastor. I would truly appreciate if you could organise some counselling sessions.


Dear R.S.,

You do not have to be in counselling sessions with me to know that you should never abuse a woman. You are very much out of order.

No intelligent woman should remain with a man who slaps her or hit her regardless of what the circumstance may be.

You have not said that this woman cheated on you. You seem to be saying that that is the fear you have.

Please understand, young man, that if a woman is determined to cheat, she would do so right under your nose and you would not even see her. This girl should leave you.

May I suggest that you ask her pardon and learn to grow up. She has the right to associate with anybody she wishes to. You do not control her. You should respect her and treat her as a lady.


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