My husband loves to get 'ignorant'


March 02, 2017

Dear Pastor,

I am 28 and married. Sometimes, the way my husband treats me, I wonder if he loves me. He is very arrogant and when he is upset, he uses many bad words.

I try to treat him well. I wash, cook, and clean. I try to make him very comfortable. I don't pressure him for money. Whatever he gives me, I take. And from what he gives me, I pay my partner and my tithes.

One thing he doesn't stop me from doing is going to church or church trips, but if anything goes wrong, he would curse me, my people, the children, and everybody.

And neighbours hear. Sometimes I feel so embarrassed. He says he doesn't care who hears when he is talking or what people want to say about him.

He is an August man. And people say that August men can be very aggressive. I don't know if that is true.


Dear Unnamed,

Whether you know it or not, you have a good husband. Don't listen to what people say about August men. You know that your man loves you.

And you know that when he gets upset, he may say things that he should not say. And the best way to deal with that is to remain quiet and don't try to argue with him toe to toe.

Remember that when some men are angry, they raise their voices. And they do not always speak respectfully to their partners.

I am glad that this man does not prevent you from going out or from going to church. You are a wise woman. Even when he is angry, be respectful to him.

Even when he criticises your parents, don't say anything negative about him. Continue to support him in every way.

I wish you well.


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