My man is too boring


March 08, 2017

Dear Pastor,

I am 23 years old and I have a man who is 47 years old. He wants me to live with him but I don't want to.

He wants to get me pregnant but I don't want to get pregnant so we use the condom. He takes care of me. The problem is that he doesn't go out.

He doesn't do anything besides work, have sex and sleep. I am young and I want to have fun.

I met another guy. He is from the US. I have had so much fun with him. I think I am in love with this man. I love light-skinned guys so I guess that's why I was attracted to him.

We talk every day and every night. One day he sent me money and stuff. The other man in the US is 50 years old.

He can't get any more kids and I am not happy about that. My mom wants me to keep talking to my boyfriend because he can financially help me. What should I do?


Dear A.B.,

You are playing with fire. You are living with a man right now and he is supporting you financially. You should not be playing around with any other man.

This man is 47 years old and you are 23. If you believe that he is too old for you, you should end the relationship with him and move on. He is a hard-working man. He is not interested in parties.

What he is interested in is having you, a young girl, taking care of his home, rubbing his head and giving him lots of sex.

He would give you any amount of money just to keep him happy, but you are not happy. You don't mind the sex and the money but you want to have fun outside the house.

Now this other man you have met is older than the man with whom you live. He loves to take you out. You have great fun with him and I am sure that you love his money.

You say that he can't get you pregnant because of his age. You have to be joking. You are uninformed. If this man is in good health and has not had a vasectomy, he can get you pregnant. Don't fool yourself.

I repeat, you are playing with fire. This is the guy that you love, but if you continue to be so reckless with your life, the man with whom you live will find out and may want to verbally and physically abuse you.

I am sure you have seen what men are doing to women. We condemn that kind of behaviour from our men, but some of you women continue to do things that put your life at risk.

So please, I beg you, cut out this nonsense you are doing. Stick with one man.


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