Can't get over my father's death


April 05, 2017

Dear Pastor,

I am a 44-year-old man and my father died one year now. I can't get over his death and I don't know what to do. I haven't talked to anyone about it.


Dear L.H.,

Evidently you are suffering from depression. Is it that your father died suddenly? Perhaps you do not believe that he was prepared to die.

Sometimes when people did not make peace with their relatives, wives and children or they did not make wills and they die suddenly, that can cause surviving relatives to slip into depression.

If a person loses his or her life tragically, it is difficult for surviving relatives to overcome such tragedy.

It takes a much longer time for relatives and friends to accept what happened than if the person died from natural causes.

You are either going through a period of intense shock, grief or loss. A surviving relative who was very close to the deceased may suffer from exhaustion, anger and digestive problems, and he or she may find it difficult to sleep.

If certain symptoms, like the numbing of the fingers and so on persists, he or she should seek medical attention.

What I am trying to say is that it is not unusual for a relative or close friend to suffer for a while after the death of his or her loved one.

However, if the feeling of depression persists, he or she should seek professional help.


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