I think she's scamming me


May 19, 2017

Dear Pastor,

I am writing to you for your advice in the following matter. I am 42 years old. I am a single black male, and I don't have any children as yet. I am currently incarcerated in a New York state prison.

I recently received a letter from a beautiful woman who responded to a personal ad I placed on a website. I truly believed that my prayers were answered by this woman coming into my life as a pen pal and hopefully my future wife, thereby taking away my loneliness.

In the second letter that she wrote me, she asked me to send her my date of birth and social security number. She came with some excuses, which I am inclined to disbelieve.

I now feel like she preyed on my loneliness and current hardship as a scheme to receive my personal information. She denies this and acts like she is heartbroken, feeling disrespected because of my feelings about her request.

Pastor, do you feel that I am misjudging her? I am merely seeking a woman to love, marry and have children with and also to go on vacations every 45 to 90 days. Is that too much to ask for?


Dear H.L.,

You ought not to trust this person who is asking for your private and personal information. You cannot be sure whether that person is male or female.

But even if the person is what she says she is, why does she want your social security and other information? Don't take that risk. Don't expose yourself like that to the world. You may lose all that you have.


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