She aborted my child


May 22, 2017

Dear Pastor,

I am 24 years old and I have a girlfriend who is 27. She and I have been friends for three years. My mother never liked her. She said I should look for somebody younger.

This girl has two children. Sometimes I sleep at her place, but I don't let my mother know. I do security work, so sometimes when she thinks I am at work I am really with my girlfriend.

I got her pregnant and I was very glad. But she told me she didn't want to keep the baby, so she was going to do an abortion. I begged her not to do the abortion.

I told her to carry the baby and when the child is born, I could take it and give it to my mother. She said she wouldn't want my mother to raise any child.

She did the abortion and then told me that if I don't like what she did I can leave, because it is her body. The relationship between us is not the same because every time we talk about her children, I remember that she threw away the only one I would have got.


Dear Anonymous,

Your lady friend is quite correct. She can do whatever she wants with her body, but you do not have to continue having an intimate relationship with her, because she does not respect your opinion.

Your mother was right all along. She told you that you are with the wrong woman. She saw through this woman, so to speak, but you felt that your mother was going too far. You did not want to take advice from her.

Now you are feeling like a little boy. My suggestion is that you end the relationship with this woman forthwith.

Find a woman who loves and respects you, someone with whom you can reason and make life together. Don't find a woman who would only want to use you and take away all your money and then laugh at you.

You are a young man. Try and go back to school. You will need more education.


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