Social media ruins relationships
Over the last few weeks, I've been noticing a trend in my social media feeds; it seems relationships are ending on a massive scale.
It's interesting when we stop to think how relationships seem to have a shorter shelf life than usual. Looking at this phenomenon one can ask, why?
Well, I decided to conduct a little survey on my Facebook page and social media was the most popular reason given for the demise of many relationships.
So how does social media affect relationships? Personally, I think it's really how people use social media that is the issue. For example:
Persons give too much information
There are persons who, if you want to know what they've doing right now, all you have to do is check their feed. How much you share should be regulated. Decide how involved you want strangers to get into your relationship and make adjustments.
People get offended by comments
It doesn't make sense to get offended when you put your business on social media. When you make that post, you invite everyone with access to have a say. The comments are just a consequence of putting your life out there for all to see.
There is no such thing as 'privacy only I need'. Once it's posted, your post can be shared, copied, and redirected without your knowledge or permission.
It doesn't matter what your privacy settings are or if you only share stuff with your friends. You don't have any control over who these friends share with. So if you don't want your business shared, perhaps you shouldn't post it in the first place.
Paying attention to opinions on social media
How do the thoughts of a complete stranger, who is just commenting on a post, affect your relationship? Because you let it. Stop taking the things that are said online so seriously.
People lie online
When using social media, you need to understand that many persons use it as an opportunity to indulge in their fantasy lives. So much of what is shared may not be true. So take the advice with a grain of salt.
At the end of the day, social media is a tool and its effectiveness in your relationship is completely up to you.
You decide what to share, who to share it with, and how much of your business you are comfortable being there. Personally, I think that less is more.
People will always be intrigued with other people's misery and they will participate as much as you allow.
Take control of your social media accounts and only post things you want to share with the world.
Enjoy technology, but remember that its use comes with consequences.