My husband forces me to watch porn

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March 18, 2016

Dear Pastor,

I am 23. I recently got married. My husband has many erotic movies. He introduced me to them. Sometimes I look at them just to please him.

My husband does not want us to go to bed wearing clothes. He did not show this side of him before we got married. When I saw the first movie I could not believe my eyes. He told me what I was seeing is what he wanted me to learn to do to him and what he will do to me.

I reminded him we were Christians. He said Christianity doesn't mean we cannot have a good time as man and wife.

He roughs me up sometimes and calls me stupid. I asked one of my church sisters if I should look at these movies. Unknowing to my husband, I lent her two of them. Two weeks after, she saw me and was excited. She told me how good the movies were. She said her husband had enjoyed them and wanted me to lend her two more.

She said if I put into practise what she saw in the movies, I would keep my husband happy.

My pastor said Christians should not watch these movies. I want to hear your advice.

E.H.

Dear E.H.,

There are some adult movies that I would not encourage anybody to look at, whether married or single, Christian or non-Christian, because they are grossly immoral. I don't have to explain what goes on in these movies. So I suppose that is what your pastor might have been talking about.

However, I would not condemn a couple who look at a movie that might be classified as x-rated or sexually explicit, profanity excluded, but is educational and enjoyable.

Let us bear in mind that many books are written to teach students who are perusing work in sex education, sex therapy and different forms of psychology. These books must be read as part of their assigned reading to pass their courses.

When couples meet in premarital counsel, sex is discussed. Nothing is hidden during premarital counselling. If a couple wants to watch a movie that will help them with their sexual endeavours, who am I to condemn them?

I know that regardless what I say here, some folks will condemn me, but it is my responsibility to speak the truth. If you are not comfortable looking at some of these movies that your husband wants you to see, he should not force you to do so.

Perhaps he could buy you books instead. Please try to keep your marriage together. Don't be foolish. Hold a balance.

Pastor

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