Suicide is never the answer


April 11, 2016

Dear Pastor,

Thank you for being a servant of God. I am 60 and, as a child, I used to believe that suicide was the unforgivable sin, without having proper knowledge of the Holy Bible where that subject is concerned. When someone commits suicide, they cannot ask God for forgiveness and, of course, one of His commandments says: "Thou shall not kill ". When I turned 18 and my knowledge of the Holy Bible increased, I realised that blasphemy against the Holy Spirit is the unforgivable sin. Until this day, it's my conceptual belief that killing yourself is unrighteous in the sight of God and there'll be no pardon for your soul. Please enlighten me on this subject.


My letter is with regard to 17-year-old 'S. H.', who wrote to you, "I am going to commit suicide". Her letter just crushed my feelings with uncontrollable tears running down my face. She had reached out to you, Pastor, asking for your help, and I am 99 per cent sure you'll be helping her in her time of need in the best way you can. Evidently, she is from a poor family and her conditions at home are despicable, yet she graduated from high school with six subjects. She was asking only for a job to earn a salary to further her studies to become a worthwhile citizen. I applaud her for her ambitions and I love her dearly in Jesus Christ's name.

Everyone has issues that we have to live with, which we don't have any control over. However, we should have a mindset not to give up because giving up would categorise us as losers without faith in God Almighty. Indeed, we should make the best of whatever situation that presents itself and give thanks to God for His blessing, and He'll guide us through. Furthermore, when we evaluate others' negative issues objectively, we'll realise how wonderful Jesus Christ is to us.


Pastor, it's my conceptual belief that love is sharing and giving as well as having and receiving. Furthermore, Jesus Christ was a gift to us from our Heavenly Father, God Almighty, based on the Holy Bible. Interestingly, love is lovely and is captivated within our hearts. The love that we give and have is shared and received. Furthermore, through having and giving and sharing and receiving, we too can share and love and have and receive. The golden rule of life says that we should do unto others as we would desire others doing unto us. I am a true believer in that notion.

My advice to her is to please perish the thoughts of suicide. Irrespective of your negative issues, there are so many people who are less fortunate than you. Open your heart fully to Jesus Christ, the Son of our living God. He is our Lord and Saviour and only through Him we can obtain righteousness. We should always worship Him in spirit and in truth. Please attend a church of your choice for comfort and assurance, if you're not doing so already. Read your Bible and always pray. Dearest, Pastor is one of God's comforting servants sent to emancipate us all in our times of need and to guide us in the path of righteousness. Your prayers will be answered.


Dear E.V.,

Concerning suicide, theologians have differed widely on the matter of suicide. Some have said that anyone who takes his or her own life cannot inherit eternal life. Others have said that a person who has taken his or her own life does so under deep depression and is not fully aware of what he or she is doing. As a counsellor, I take the position that it is not for me to determine whether or not a person who has committed suicide will enter eternal bliss. I leave that into the hand of God our Creator and Saviour. You have given to the writer whose letter was published under the caption "I am going to commit suicide" some valuable suggestions. I need not say more.


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