My man tells his friends everything


June 10, 2016

Dear Pastor,

I am in my early 20s. My boyfriend is in his early 40s. We have been living together for more than a year.

We have a lot of issues. Sometimes I want to walk away. I know I can be revengeful, but I have to be really hurt about something to behave like that.

My main problem with him is that everything that happens between us, he talks to his friends or family members about what I've done. Somehow he leaves out the part about what he had done, making me look like the crazy one.

He met a girl and told her all about me. I found out about her and texted her to stop contacting him. She was able to tell me everything that happened between us.

Sometimes I wonder if he's a man or a boy. He ran every friend out of my life because of his jealousy. My friends are afraid to call or text because they don't know if it's me or him that they will get on my phone.

I recently made a post on his Facebook page, nothing bad. Just a note about who he really is, so when he talks about me with his friends and does not tell the full story, they would know.

Apparently some of them telephoned him about it, and said they don't like me, etc. The thing is, he doesn't like my mom and sisters and doesn't want to come with me to family gatherings.

I have to beg him and he doesn't care. He said he's with me and not them, but now that his family doesn't like me, he wants to make a major problem out of it.

He's unfair. If I tell him that something won't work, he doesn't care if I say so. He does it anyway. If a family or friend says it won't work, he listens.

I don't want to be in a relationship in which my views aren't considered, but his should be. Nothing can change him. He wants what he wants.

I wish I could leave but circumstances are holding me back. I'm having his child and he has never rubbed my feet when it hurts, nor my back. He wants me to do all the housework and he is not considering that I should take it easy because of the extra weight

He wants me to stay home and babysit his son from another mother, while he's out drinking and having fun.

He makes me so sad and heartbroken. I just don't know what to do anymore. All I can do is cry, cry and cry. He doesn't seem to care that I'm hurting.


Dear Frustrated

It is unfortunate that you are pregnant for this man because he is not ready to settle down.

He believes that a woman is place is in the home, while a man can run around with his friends and do whatever he wishes to.

This is not a family man. He sees a woman as a carrier of children and that is where it stops.

You said he does not respect your opinion. It is not only your opinion he does not respect, he doesn't respect you, period.

Family matters should be held in confidence. This man is a chatterbox and you can't trust him.

I hope when you have give you will try to get a job and move on. I wish you the very best in life.


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