I am in love with my parents' friend
I am 18 years old and I am deeply in love with a 40-year-old man. He is a friend of my parents, and I don't know what to do or how to keep this from them because I have so many feelings for him. He calls me every night and we talk on the phone for long hours about any little thing. I really enjoy this man's company because he's really good to me, but I don't know what to do, Pastor. Should I break it off?
Dear S. S.,
You believe that you are in love with this 40-year-old man, but the situation is complicated because he is a friend of your parents and you probably know that they would not be in favour of this relationship. What you are going through is not usual because women love men who spend time listening to them. And this man listens to you, so you have got to love him more.
You are wondering how your parents would react to this relationship. It is not only because he is a friend of theirs, it is also because of his age. Your friendship with him may cause the good relationship he has had with them to cease. They may not want you, their 18-year-old daughter, to have an intimate relationship with him. However, if you believe that you love him and he loves you, you should encourage him to test the waters, so to speak, by encouraging him to tell your parents that he is interested in you and that he wants to know how they feel about it.
In the meantime, be very careful. Don't hide and meet with him. If you are going to see him, make sure that it is in an area where he cannot take advantage of you or have sex with you. Make sure that lots of people are around. You do not want to do anything that you would regret in years to come.