I just gave birth but my husband pressuring me for sex Dear Pastor,


July 18, 2016

Dear Pastor,

I am 23 years old and my husband is 24. I am having a problem with my husband.

We have been married for one year and six months and I just gave birth to a baby girl. Three weeks after I gave birth, my husband was trying to have sex with me and I objected. I told him that I did not feel like having sex and that he needed to give me more time. He said that it is three months now that he has had sex because he had stopped having sex with me two months before I had the baby. To put it in his own words, "he is thirsty". I have a friend and she told me that it took her four months before she resumed having sex with her husband. What I want to know is, how long should a woman wait before she resumes having sex?

E. G.

Dear E. G.,

I believe that the best person to advice you on this matter is your doctor. Doctors say that it depends on the condition of the woman. Some women need more time than others. In some societies, husbands do not resume having sex with their wives before 60-90 days. But there are those who can't wait for too long, so they resume having sex between four and six weeks, or even earlier. No man should force his wife to have sex with him after she has given birth. Some women may also be suffering from emotional stresses. Therefore, a man should be very patient and not try to force his wife to have sex with him. I repeat, it is important that a woman discuss this matter with her doctor.


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