Broke up with fiance, considering going back to my ex


July 28, 2016

Dear Pastor,

I am asking for your advice. I am 25 years old and I have cancelled my wedding because my fiancE cheated on me. I thought I could have just forgiven him and then we could move on, but now I have to end this relationship because he cheated and didn't even use a condom and gave me an infection.

Thank God it's not any of the serious ones. So now I'm thinking about getting back together with my ex. We broke up lots of times, but still we got back together.

The last time we stayed apart was for a year and a half. He treated me very well, apart from when we would get into fights and he would curse me and call me the worse names anyone could think of. That was the reason we broke up.

Whenever I was ill, he was the one who took care of me, even when my family turned their backs on me. He was always there. We dated for seven years and I still love him, but I'm afraid that he'll do and say the same things when he is angry. So now I'm not sure if I should give him another chance.

My current boyfriend is 30 years old and my ex is 31. My current boyfriend doesn't care for me like my ex did. All he does is give me money when things are not going well between us. I like it that he supports me financially, but money can't fix everything.

I don't know what to do, Pastor. Please help me. Should I give my ex another chance or just try and be by myself for a while? I'm so confused. I await your response.


Dear Confused,

My suggestion is that you should remain single and not give yourself to anyone unless you are very sure that the love you have for him is very strong and that you can trust him.

You left the man with whom you had a seven-year relationship. You said that he was verbally abusive and you couldn't take it, so therefore, you went with another man and you got engaged to him and plans were made for the marriage. But this man cheated and gave you a sexually transmitted infection.

Now the relationship between the both of you is dead and your body is on fire again for your ex-boyfriend. It seems to me that you can't stay without a man for any length of time. And any woman who is like that will get into serious trouble. Men will take advantage of her.

These two men you have mentioned in your letter have not taken you seriously, and if you would marry your ex, he is bound to give you problems.

Pray about your future. Let God be your guide. Don't be anxious to get married.


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