My man believes I will give him bun


July 03, 2017

Dear Pastor,

I am 23 and I've been in a relationship for the past eight months with a man who is almost twice my age.

I've never met a gentleman so adorable, nice, loving and kind. I have two children who I take care of on my own. I thank God the day I let that man in my life.

But my problem is he's insecure, jealous and foolish. He gets upset over things I don't even know about. I don't want to lose this man.

I love him dearly and I know he loves me, too. He has offered a lot to me, but I have nothing to offer in return.

Pastor, I need your advice. What can I do to show him that I'll never cheat on him or do anything to hurt him?


Dear S.D.,

You will not be able to do anything outside the ordinary to convince this man that you will never cheat. Which intelligent man would swear that his woman would not cheat?

What he would hope is that it would never happen because his wife loves him and is a Christian and knows that she would have much to lose.

If this man doesn't trust you, you are going to be unhappy. You may try to assure him that you will never cheat, and show him much love.

But apart from giving him the assurance that you would be faithful, you cannot perform any miracle that would make him feel safe.

Often, men who believe that their women will cheat have suffered that fate in past relationships, and they have convinced themselves that all women are cheaters.

So don't worry. Just do what you know you have to do and leave the relationship in the hands of God.

You speak about this man having anger problems. You need to encourage him to see a counsellor and learn how to control his anger.


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