My aunt's boyfriend wants me


July 06, 2017

Dear Pastor,

I am 23 and something has been bothering me for some time now. I am a real country girl. My parents have six of us.

My father is a farmer and my mother is a housewife. They have tried their very best with us.

My first brother learnt carpentry. My second brother was fortunate with the help of a cousin to go to college.

I have an aunt who lived in Kingston and she told my mother that she would take me. I went to live with her from I was 14. She treated me well.

She had a boyfriend and she used to tell him that I am her daughter, but he knew that I am her niece.

One day, she told me that her boyfriend was married, but she didn't know that he was married when she got involved with him and now she can't get out.

We used to live in a two-bedroom house, so I had my own room and she had hers. She bought a one-bedroom apartment in a nice neighbourhood, so I didn't have my own room anymore.

I slept in her room but on a different bed. One day, I heard her boyfriend fussing with her about me, but they did not know I was hearing them.


He was telling her that he can't get to have sex with her because there is no privacy, and she told him that they can go to a hotel. He said that he could not go to a hotel all the time.

I stayed with my aunt until I passed all my exams. Her boyfriend started to admire me and he told me that he has falling in love with me, and I told my aunt.

She did not believe me; she asked him and he told her that I am pushing up myself to him, but he is not interested.

One day, I worked up some courage and I told my aunt that as soon as I am working, I would like to rent my own place, and she was upset and complained to her man. He was glad to hear that I wanted to move out.

He told me that he would help me pay the rent, and I don't need to fear because he is planning to leave my aunt. Because I love my aunt, I told her everything.

She told my mother that I am bad and we had a falling out. She told my mother I moved out because I kept bringing in different men in her house, and she spoke to me about it and I was not pleased.

Although my aunt lied about me, I still love her because she gave me a chance to get an education.

The only thing that I know I have taken from this man was money he offered me to buy a pair of shoes when I was going to school.

Pastor, please, give me your advice. I am sharing house with another girl. My aunt believes everything this man tells her. He is a womaniser.


Dear C.L.,

Your aunt is going to find out that this man is a liar. It is just a matter of time. You know that you have not done any wrong.

I am glad that you are in a position to pay your own bills and live on your own. If you had consented to have an affair with this man, he probably would have defended you, but you were wise enough to reject him because he was already having an affair with your aunt.

Perhaps your aunt is hoping that this man will divorce his wife and marry her. You don't know exactly what is going on.

She has held on to this man because, perhaps, he spent a lot of money on her, including assisting her to buy a house.

You do not hate your aunt. That is the right attitude to take. Perhaps in years to come, she may ask you to forgive her for the things that she said about you.

However, keep far away from this man who wanted you to be his lover also.


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