His penis is too large for me


July 10, 2017

Dear Pastor,

I am 21 years old and I was a virgin up to a few weeks ago. I am in love with a guy who says he loves me, too. We are from the same district, so he knows everything about me. My parents always told me not to get involved with any man from the area, but this guy comes from a decent family. His father is an engineer and his mother is a teacher, and they are Christian people.

When he told me that he wanted us to be friends, I told him that I didn't want to have anything to do with anybody from the community or surrounding areas. He said he knew that that was coming from my parents because his parents told him that he should look out of the area when he is seeking a wife.


He said he already told his mother that he had been admiring me from I was 15. We have been friends for a year and a half, and our parents have met and they have given us their blessing.

For a long time, he has been talking to me about sex, saying he can't wait until he is married because he had a girlfriend before he got serious with me and they always have sex.

I planned to have sex with him, and he told me when he will be alone at home. I cried so much when I saw his big penis. He hugged me and told me everything was going to be alright, but it wasn't alright. He could hardly get it in. He burst me up and I bled a lot.

When I went home, my mother knew something was wrong. And the moment she asked me what was wrong, I started to cry and told her the truth. I told her not to let my father know, but she told him anyway. He didn't say anything to me, but I had to go to the doctor.

I told my mother that I didn't want to marry this man anymore. He is too large for me. I have never seen such a big penis; I have brothers and I used to see them naked all the while.

My mother said that everything is going to be alright. My boyfriend still comes to my house and we talk, but every time he touches me these days I become very nervous. I don't know what to do, pastor. I really don't know what I should do.

The doctor told me that my boyfriend was too rough, and before we have sex again he should come to see him. We were planning to get married in December, but I am afraid of him now.


Dear G.J.,

Your fiancE kept asking you for sex and you finally consented, and now you regret. You say he has a massive penis. Jamaican women would say he is gifted. Perhaps this man was so anxious that he did not engaged much in foreplay, and as a virgin you needed much of that.

However, if he is so massive, you would have suffered some discomfort. When a girl is a virgin and she has sex for the first time, she would experience some bleeding. But, according to what you have said, it was excessive.

The doctor has already told you that everything is going to be alright. Your mother told you so, too. Your daddy has not said a word. I am sure that after your boyfriend sees the doctor, the doctor would advise him what to do.

Having said the above, I cannot play the hypocrite. I would think that you need to follow that advice of the doctor. He examined you and he will be in a position to tell you whether you would be comfortable in having sex with this man after both of you are married.

What I am about to say is not to scare you, but I know from time to time physicians have had to advise women to stop having sex with certain men because these men were too large. I shall never forget that one of the women I counselled was advised not to have sex with her boyfriend because he carried a very large penis and she was always in pain whenever they had sex. That man loved her very much, but the relationship had to end.


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