My son doesn't listen to me


August 03, 2017

Dear Pastor,

Greetings to you and your staff. I am one of your fans. I read your column every day. You are the reason why I buy THE STAR. I have two sons, one is 17 and the other is 23. The 23-year-old one is a good boy. Although he is a big man, when I talk to him, he listens. He will go to church, and he comes home at a reasonable time. But I am scared for the younger one.

He has taken up sporting and music, and he has started to smoke the weed. He is running around with some girls who are not Jamaicans. They are short, brown-skin girls. His brother told me that he has spoken to him, but he is not listening.

Pastor, what are so many of these girls doing in Jamaica? I told my son to go back to school, but he is not listening. Only the girls are in his head, and the one he claims to be his girlfriend, she hardly knows English, and he is up and down with her. He has a little work, but he hardly goes to work. They will soon fire him. He will be 18 in December. I asked him if he is having sex, and he asked me what kind of question is that.

Isn't he underaged, Pastor?

Concerned Mother

Dear Concerned Mother,

Children may have the same mother and father, but that does not necessarily mean that they will operate the same way. Your older son stays at home, and evidently helps you whenever you need him to do so. Your younger son loves the girls and loves to sport. You seem to be concerned because he has a tourist as his girlfriend.

I see these young people walking up on down. They are enjoying Jamaica. At nights I see them dressed up in shorts, and they are always together as if they are coming from or going to clubs. They don't interfere with anybody, and evidently, Jamaican people love them. I don't know about other parishes, but they seem to love Kingston and St Andrew. If they are bringing money into the country, more power to the Jamaica people.

I don't think you need to worry too much about your son. He has his own life to live. Soon he will be 18 years old. However, he is not too old for you to caution him about the way he is living. But, please, don't fret.

What I will say to you is he will change. A little warning here or there, along with a little guidance may help, but if you treat him as a kid he will resent you. Parents can only do so much and no more. So keep strong, read your psalms and pray. I hope that everything will be all right.


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