He didn't bring me home because I refused sex


August 05, 2017

Dear Pastor,

I am 19 years old, and I am going to college this year. My father is not a rich man, and my mother works as a helper. From the time I was born, my parents were preparing for me to go to college. I love my parents, especially my father. He was never a man to waste his money. I am his only child.

As a girl, I did some cheeky things, but I never had sex. I had a boyfriend, but he left me because he wanted us to have sex. One day we went out, and we were making out in his car. He took me to the cliff, but I did not fall over. I had on a skirt and he had my panty off, but I caught myself and told him to stop. He did not want to stop. I told him I will report him. I found myself shaking. He did not even have a condom. He was so angry, and he refused to take me home. But I had money on me, so he dropped me in Half-Way Tree, and I took a taxi home. And I told him never to call me again. He called me and told me he was sorry.

I am so glad that I did not go off the cliff, because when he was talking to me and trying to get me to have sex with him, I did not know that another girl was pregnant for him. I have found that out after we broke up. I hate that guy.

I am now talking to a much older man. He respects me, and I respect him. He is almost as old as my father, but that is nothing to me. His children take me as their sister. This man and I never had sex. I love him very much.


Dear L.E,

You speak highly of your parents, especially your father. I hope you will never do anything to let your parents feel disappointed in you. You are very young, and I am sure that you have set your goals and objectives before you. Don't get sidetracked.

Many girls your age feel that they must have boyfriends. They feel left out if they don't have men in their lives. They fail to realise that time goes by very fast, and if they were to study hard and do well, then graduate, they will have lots of time to have relationships and to find suitable men.

You had a very unfortunate experience with this young man you called your boyfriend, and you are fortunate he did not force you to have sex with him. He is a very silly man. He was so angry that he refused to take you home. He was only interested in having sex with you. You know from that experience that he did not really love you.

I hope that he would treat his babymother well. I hope that you will tell your parents about this other man. You haven't said whether he is a widow and why you have gotten involved with him, but you need to be careful. I repeat, tell your parents about him. I am sure your father would give you some valuable advice. I wish you well as you go to university. Please, let me hear from you again.


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