Still sleeping with two of my babyfathers


August 11, 2017

Dear Pastor,

I have three children. I am facing challenges. I am not a dunce. I am 30 years old, but I look as if I am 20; that is what people say. I am still having sex with the fathers of two of my children.

One of them knows the truth, but the other just accepts whatever I say. Now that I know better, I keep my condoms nearby all the time.

The last child's father told me that it is up to me if I want to have sex with the other guy. He said I can live whatever way I want to live. He has his wife. He can never marry me.

His wife has a green card and she is planning to take him away. He treats me better than the other man.

I don't know where my first child's father is. I know you are going to tell me that I should go and find a job to help myself. I do have a job and I got a house from Housing Trust. It is the money I get from these guys that is helping me to pay the mortgage.


One of my sisters lives with me. She knows how to make excuses for me. I tell her all the time to be careful because of what I know now. If I had known before what I know now, I would only have one child.

Where my last child's father lives, I can go there when his wife is not there. It is a gated community and the guys at the gate know me, but they think that I am his sister.

I love this man more that the other men, but this relationship is not going to last because he will soon leave. Every week he gives me $7,000 or more. I need that money.

My father is planning to sell a piece of land he has and to give me some of the money from the sale. I hope the sale will be soon.

Pastor, you are doing a good job. My friends love you and I love you, too. Thanks for reading my letter. I am looking forward to your answer this time around.


Dear Writer,

You are living a very risky life. You believe that you must have sex with these men to help to pay your bills and to support your children.

Believe me when I say I understand, and yet I think that if you were determined to change, you will get a better job that will pay you more than what you are earning now. And you wouldn't have to rely on these guys.

When a man is having a relationship with a woman and he knows that she is having sex with another man and it doesn't bother him, it is because he doesn't care much about that woman.

He feels that whenever he wants to have sex with her, he can. So it does not matter what she does. Even if she had a 100 men, he wouldn't care. He just wants to know that he can get her at any time and that he has his condoms.

Have you ever wondered what will happen if two of these men meet in the same place with you? How will that work if one decides not to walk away but to create a scene?

You are working. See if you can do something else to augment your salary. That would enable you to pay your mortgage and not to sell your body.


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