Husband left me days after we got married


August 23, 2017

Dear Pastor,

I hope you are in good health. I am a 23-year-old stripper who recently got married to an American citizen. We met at the club and he invited me out, just like everyone else.

Two days after, he asked for my hand in marriage, and I accepted. During that time, I had been praying to God for deliverance from the club.

I trusted that it was God who had sent him. I don't usually question God's work. I simply accept and move on. I was stunned by Him placing a man in my life that was offering all that I was praying for, nothing major, just merely pure happiness, children, marriage and settling down and to quit stripping.

Anyway, we got married about four days after we met, with no ring, and neither did I wear a wedding dress.

I stopped a few times to question myself, but like I said before, I felt like it was from God.

A few days after the wedding day, he left Jamaica for Houston, Texas, where he lives. He had promised to take care of the filing, my expenses and tuition fee once I stopped stripping.

He failed to do that. I heard from him a few days after he left, and that was it. He's the nephew of a prominent politician in Texas and I got to find out that he's filthy rich.


What could he possibly want from me? It cannot be money. I've tried reaching out to the police, the politician and his other relatives but it seems like he has already turned their minds against me.

I will have to wait until one year has passed before I am able to file for divorce. I feel stupid and I am unable to think properly.

I don't know what happened and I constantly blame myself. I cannot fathom why he would've married me, then ignore me. Why?

Pastor, kindly advise me.

Thanks in advance.


Dear R.,

I do not believe that you have told me the whole truth about what you know about this man.

I won't question why you would marry a man so soon after meeting him. But I am sure that this man told you much more about himself. You said you heard that he is this and that.

Many Texans come to Jamaica to visit women in person. They got to know these women on the Internet. Many of them are very wealthy and are white.

You must have seen something in this man. He must have told you certain things that caused you to marry him in a hurry. The question is, why has he dropped you as soon as he returned to America?

Did you lie to him and he found out? Did you rob him? What? Did he lie to you? Many American males come to Jamaica just to have a fling with our Jamaican girls. That is a fact.

You said after he went back, you never heard a word from him. He probably say his goodbye forever at the airport.

I am sorry to disappoint you, but I must tell you that I would be very surprised if he contacts you again. I would be glad if he does, but I would say to you that you need to find a family counsellor and make arrangements to see him or her to help you to maintain your sanity, and you should also find a lawyer and discuss divorce proceedings.

I know you were trying to get out of the club work, but perhaps this man was turned on by your beautiful body as you stripped yourself at the club. Perhaps he fooled you.

But you are still young, you can pick up the pieces and move on. I will be praying for you.


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