Pregnant for a no-good man


August 30, 2017

Dear Pastor,

This is the first time I am writing to you. I'm 19 years old and my boyfriend is 29. We've been together for a year and some months now.

When we first met, it was amazing, great, and wonderful. As the months have passed, things have changed.

We moved in together in the latter part of December and in January I discovered that I became pregnant. I was scared because I found out that he is cheating on me.

During the pregnancy, it was hell between the both of us. We argued and fought often. He told me that he loves me very much and I believed him.

My trust for him is not 100 per cent anymore, because he is a liar. He lies about simple things.

Pastor, I really love this guy, but sometimes I feel like I would just end the relationship with him. I really don't know what to do.


Dear A.S.,

If this man has other women, you can only do a few things. You can pray and seek counselling, or you can leave him and return home.

If he does not support his child, you may take him to court for child support. But nothing you say or do will stop him from having other women.

He is likely to deny everything you say because, as I see it, you are young and naive. You should not have gone to live with him and you should not have allowed him to get you pregnant.

A child is not a toy. You have tied up yourself with a child for many years to come and this man seems to be an irresponsible man. He does not care much about your feelings.

Call a family counsellor and set an appointment for both of you to go and see him/her. I hope he will be willing to attend the counselling session.


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