Embarrassed about my breasts


September 15, 2017

Dear Pastor,

I am 15 years old and I am having a problem. I am embarrassed by it. One of my breasts is larger than the other, and whenever I am with my schoolmates and we are changing, they always ask me why one of my breasts is larger than the other. I told them I don't know. I was with two of my friends, and we were staying at a hotel because we were bridesmaid at a wedding. We were sharing room together. They noticed my breasts, and asked me about them. I felt embarrassed about it.

A year or two ago, I had asked my mother about it, and she told me that she had that problem when she was growing up, too. But as she got older, her two breasts filled out and almost looked the same, although one of them is still slightly bigger than the other.

Do you think that my breasts will prevent me from breastfeeding my children and that I may have to do surgery on them? I am scared of that.


Dear K.L.,

From time to time, I have had to counsel girls whose breasts are their concern. I know that girls, especially teenagers, are so very conscious about how they look. Their physical appearance is very important to them. I want to assure you, however, that it is common for girls to observe that one breast might be bigger than the other. That does not mean that the girl is abnormal. Often, the smaller breast fills out to the same size of the other, or almost the same size. Therefore, your mother was quite correct when she told you that you ought not to be too concerned about it.

If one of your breasts is very large (much larger than the other), your mother should take you to her family doctor and have him or her examine the breasts and advise her appropriately. That might help to give you peace of mind. Right now, don't worry about it. Everything is going to be all right, and I am sure that you will be able to breastfeed your children when the time comes.


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