Don't know who my babyfather is


September 23, 2017

Dear Pastor,

I am writing to you for your advice, and I hope that you will respond to me quickly. I am 20 years old and I have a six-month-old baby.

I was having sex with two different guys, and both of them used to give me money. I know what I did was wrong.

These guys know each other, and I told both of them that I loved them, but they did not know I was having sex with both of them.

One used to laugh at the other when we met and were having sex. He used to say, "Poor boy! He can't get what I am getting," and I could not say a word.

When I got pregnant, I just guessed which one of them was the father. I don't know what I would do if I have made a mistake.

I want you to help me handle this problem. It wouldn't be easy for me to talk the truth because I get money from both of them, and I don't want that money to stop.

One of them is doing his own business and his business is going well. One of his sisters and I are good friends. People say we resemble.

I didn't name him as the father because whenever we were having sex and he felt like he was about to ejaculate, he would pull out. I know he didn't want to get me pregnant.

The other guy didn't seem to care. Even after he discharged in me, he would still have his private in me. So I named him as the father.

But my friends told me that a man can get a woman pregnant even though it is his custom to use the withdrawal method.

Both of these guys are of brown complexion and the baby is brown, so it is a little too soon to figure out who the father is. I am becoming nervous about it.

Please give me your advice.


Dear V.L.,

I hope all the women who have read your letter and are engaged in having more than one sexual partners and are taking money from them will realise that the day of reckoning must come.

You love to have the money from both of these men. But now that you have a young baby, you do not know who the biological father of this child is.

I just wonder how much money these men give to you. Whether it is a small or large amount of money, you should not have had unprotected sex. I am sure you have heard over and over again that it is unwise to do so.

Well, you are worrying now, but a DNA test can help you to know who the biological father is. So, find that out. Do the tests as early as possible.

From reading your letter, I realise that both of these men support you well. If you have made a mistake in giving the child the wrong name, get that corrected.

Do not allow the child to grow up using the wrong name. It will affect the child for life and you would have to carry that guilt forever.


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