Christian boyfriend wants us to have sex


November 10, 2017

Dear Pastor,

I am a Christian woman, and I am from Manchester. I have been in my church for more than 20 years. I was married, but my husband has left me for a younger woman. I heard that my husband has gone away. One day I got a letter informing me that my husband was divorcing me. I did not fight him. He divorced me, and I am free from him.

I am a Sunday worshipper, but recently I met a man who told me that he is in love with me. The thing is, he is a Sabbath worshipper, and he says that if I get serious about him, he would marry me, but I would have to get baptised again. I told him that I did not see the reason to be baptised again. He doesn't eat pork, but that doesn't bother me because I don't eat it either although I am not a Sabbath worshipper.

I don't understand this man. He is strict on the Sabbath, but he always wants us to have sex. I don't quarrel with him when it comes to that because I feel for it sometimes too. What I want you to tell me is whether you think I should get baptised again although I was baptised in a Sunday church.


Dear N.R.,

Perhaps this man's church believes that you are a backslider and as a backslider you should be re-baptised. Perhaps they do not recognise any baptism apart from their baptism.

I don't see that the Bible teaches that, but I wouldn't want to condemn this man's church. I know for sure that the Bible says, two people who do not agree on fundamental doctrines should not get married to each other. But this is something you should discuss with your pastor and get some spiritual guidance from him.

This man is eager to get married because he wants to enjoy your body. He considers worshipping on the Saturday to be the right thing to do, but evidently, he does not consider fornication to be wrong. If you were to marry this man, you would not have any peace with him unless you renounce everything that you were taught in your church and join his church. You will have to decide what is the best thing for you to do.


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