Married boyfriend doesn't want me anymore


December 15, 2017

Dear Pastor,

I am having a problem. For the past three years, I have been seeing this man who happens to be a Jamaican. I live in the US.

Over the years, I have grown very fond of him, and thought that he felt the same for me. He is married with one daughter, but he doesn't live with his wife or daughter.

He lives with another woman. I guess I'm number three. I know that this situation is very dangerous, plus unfair to all of us, but it seems that all three of us women love him.

He recently was arrested for driving while intoxicated. I was in contact with him for the time he was in jail, but the day he got out, he called to let me know that he was released, but he never called or came over anymore.

My problem is, if he didn't want to have anything else to do with me, he should have told me. I need closure. How can I go about doing this?

Everyone says that I should just forget him, but that's easier said than done. From time to time, I call his brother to be assured that he's okay; but I'm not going to do that anymore, because I'm bothering his brother.

I just want to put an end to this, but for the life of me, I can't seem to get this man out of my mind.

Please, help me if you can.


Dear D.S.,

Please call this man and speak to him. Tell him that you are aware that he is not interested in you anymore and you understand.

You see, you haven't said it, but you were trying to get his brother to talk to him on your behalf. It is not working.

Accept the fact that this man is not interested in you anymore. I repeat, call him and tell him that you understand and you wish him well. Please, do so today.


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