I have no friends!


January 06, 2018

Dear Pastor,

You are my only hope. I'm a 14-year-old boy, and something is really bothering me. I was raised in a somewhat Christian family, so growing up, it was just from church to home. Keeping friends was not my thing. I only had one friend, and we did everything together. Since we both started high school, the friendship ended because of some problems. She went her way, and I did the same. After that I felt so bad, because she was the only friend I had.

After a while, a boy in my community started attending my school and we became friends. We would go to school together, and wait for each other after school. Months passed and the friendship became closer we were like brothers. Now, we shared everything with each other and did things that regular boys would do. Lately, his attitude has started to change. He stopped waiting for me after school and in the mornings. He started to treat me like a dog, and when his friends were around, he would totally ignore me.

Although I didn't confront him about it, I spoke to one of my teachers about it and she helped me in some kind of way. She prayed for me, and I started to see changes in him. But after some time, he went back to his old ways. Pastor, I'm not like this, because if someone starts to treat me badly, I would normally end the friendship right away. But I don't know why I can't say goodbye and end this friendship.

The teacher I spoke to said that I should give him some time, because he's immature and he doesn't understand what or who a good friend is. But, pastor, I don't know what to do.

Should I end the friendship, or should I give him some time to get more mature and understand who a good friend is? Help me, pastor, to get this off my head.


Dear J.S.,

You need to make more friends. Young people need to have lots of friends of both sexes. They should play together, study together, and go out together. In that way, they learn to socialise and to share thoughts, and even their possessions, with each other. That is a part of education. They develop wholesome relationships, not just in the classroom, but also on the playfield, etc.

Your teacher is quite correct. This young man might be just taking a break from you, and you need not push yourself on him. You should not suddenly be sorry for yourself because he is not talking to you. Talk to the other young people at your school and at your church, and from time to time, go out with them.


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