My babyfather is worthless


January 18, 2018

Dear Pastor,

I am a 22-year-old female who got pregnant by a 19-year-old man. I am hurting really badly and searching for a job to take care of my child, but I can't find one. Don't get me wrong, the man takes care of his child, but recently, we have been having problems.

Pastor, I was living at his house for a couple of months. It was okay then, but since I've left, it's been a different situation. I have to be calling and texting to tell him that I need baby stuff. Sometimes the feeding is finished, and it is like he doesn't care. He would say that he would bring stuff for the baby on Monday and when that day comes, he doesn't even answer his phone.

I am living with my mom. She helps, but sometimes she curses me about it if we have an argument. I have no one to talk to. I wish you could speak with me and counsel me. I really need to get a job. I was working for six months last year, but I had to stop due to certain circumstances.

- The Confused One

Dear Confused,

You have not sent your telephone number. I wish you had done so, so that if people called and were willing to offer you a job, I would be in a position to call you immediately. I wonder what has gone wrong why your child's father is not supporting his child as before. From what you have said, I can see that you are not totally relying on him. You got yourself a job after you gave birth, and you are searching for another. You have not stated what type of job you are seeking, but I suppose any job would do for the time being.

I am glad that your mother is assisting you. I could understand that from time to time she will feel frustrated and express how she feels in a negative way. Please, try to understand that she means no harm and that she is not condemning you.

My prayers are with you. Do, write me again or call my office at 929-1667 and leave your number.


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