Leaving my babymother for good


February 20, 2018

Dear Pastor,

I have written to you twice already and I am going with your advice. I have one more thing that I must talk to you about. I have found a place to move away from my babymother who just eats, sleeps and watches the television.

Before I got this place, I was still at her place. One night she asked me to come home and stay with the baby because she wanted to go out with 'friends'; I told her okay.

She left me there with the child from 8 p.m. and didn't come back until 3:30 a.m. I was sitting in the living room when she came in, I just looked at her and shook my head.

I went to shower at that time because I was to reach work by 5 a.m.

To cut a long story short, she has a new man but when she needs anything, she still calls me. At this point in time, I refuse to give her anything because she is careless and she is living a life that she is liable to get hurt.

Now I am to leave and this girl has been using my child against me saying I have to stay with my child.

Pastor, my mind is already made up. I am done with her. She is just my past. She is also talking about certain things with her man in the presence of my child.

I spoke to her about it more than once but she continues to do so.

When I leave this girl she is going to suffer and regret it, but I am at a point where I don't care about her anymore because she doesn't care about me.

I have to seek medical help because of the psychological stress that she put me through.

Thank God for my mother who helped me. I wish her all the best.


Dear D.S.

I wish you well as you move on, but make sure that you support your child. And, please, put God in your life. Make sure that you read your Bible, pray and attend church.


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