I just gave birth, and he's expecting another child


March 14, 2018

Dear Pastor,

I am 20 years old and I recently had my first child. The father of my child is 25 years old. I am deeply hurt because he has gotten another girl pregnant and her baby is due anytime now. When I met him, he assured me that I was the only woman in his life. He was loving and attentive. He swept me off my feet.

A relative told me that I should be careful because he knew him to be a 'gallis'. I told my relative that he was saying these things because he didn't like him. Then one day, I received a call from a woman informing me that she heard about me and she just wanted me to know that they have been together for almost three years.

I took her number, and a couple days after I called her back and asked her how she was doing and when would she be seeing him. She told me that he is usually there every evening. I asked my relative to accompany me to her house, but he was against that. I told him to take me to the road to see if his car was parked at the girl's house. He agreed. we drove by and saw that his car was there. I went home and called him. He wouldn't talk. He kept saying he couldn't talk to me at that time.

He told the girl that he is not the father of my child, and told me that he is not the father of the child that she is carrying.

I hate this man, and because of him, I don't trust men anymore. he is calling me every day and asking for forgiveness, but I will not forgive him.


Dear A.P.,

It may take a long time, but you will get over this man. And you will find a man you can trust. Not all men are liars. This man is dangerous. Make sure he supports his child, and if he doesn't, take him to the Family Court. Don't give up on men.


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