Can't get over my jealous ex boyfriend

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March 16, 2018

Dear Pastor,

I'm an 18-year-old girl who is having a problem. I used to date a policeman for six months. I can say that he was a very good lover, but for some reason I believe the relationship was all about sex. We would have sex two times per week. During the relationship, we fussed a lot because he was jealous, and so was I. I never believed a word he said. He had five kids with different babymothers. His phone would always be on silent when I was around.

The thing is, I love him so much. We haven't exchanged words for two weeks now, and it's killing me inside. I want to call him, but I don't know what to say to him because he was the one who decided to end the relationship. I think that is why it's killing me so much - because I don't know why. I'm confused as to what I should do.

N.G.

Dear N.G.,

What I have gotten from you is that although you do not trust this man and you can't believe what he says to you, you still love him. And you would want to continue to have an intimate relationship with him. He told you the relationship is over, but he has not told you why. Both of you have not exchanged words in two weeks, and you can't deal with what is happening to you.

It seems to me that you have to swallow your pride and call this man and tell him that you recognise that he is not all together a truthful man, and it was his decision to end the relationship between the both of you. Psychologically, it will help you to know why he decided to leave you, so you are respectfully asking him to tell you why. You should be careful to say that you are not asking him to come back to you; you just want to know why he left a wonderful girl like you.

Pastor

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