Wife says our marriage is like bondage

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March 31, 2018

Dear Pastor,

I am a 32-year-old man. I got married in June 2015. My wife always wanted us to have children, but soon after we got married, she changed her mind, saying that she did not want any children. She even offered to give me back the rings. I asked her what the problem was, and she said that she felt like she was in bondage.

I was in the United States, and she was in Jamaica. She had her freedom. Now, she is saying that she wants to go back to Jamaica and she does not like the US.

I told her that most people would be glad to come to the US to live. She said that she is not like most people. She is denying the truth, but it appears as if she has a man in Jamaica.

When I am at home, her cell phone never rings. Mine rings all the time and I told her that she could answer it. I tried to use her phone, but there is a password on it.

I don't know what to do. I don't have children. She has one child, and the child is with her grandmother.

When I got married, I did not have divorce in mind. Do you think I would be committing a sin if I divorced her? I would like to know.

K.E.

Dear K.E.,

Your wife is not happy, and it is unfortunate that both of you got married and now she has revealed that she wants to go back to Jamaica. I think that both of you should agree to make an appointment to see a family counsellor and go for sessions. You should not be in a hurry to divorce her. Do the sessions first, and if she insists that she wants to leave, let her go. At least you would have tried your best to keep the relationship together.

Although it may appear that she may have a man in Jamaica, you don't know that for sure, so don't accuse her of that. Time will tell whether that is so.

Pastor

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