I had a child for my sister's husband


April 11, 2018

Dear Pastor,

Please give me your advice. I have been reading your column and it is very helpful to me. I have three children, two for one man and one for my brother-in-law. I got mixed up with my brother-in-law because my children's father wasn't supporting them and my brother-in-law was always giving me money and always asking me for sex. I told him that one day I would give him.

I wasn't working, and one day he showed up when the children were at school. He told me that he came for the thing that I promised him. I asked him what thing and he said, "come, come man, I don't have much time, I have to go back to work." I asked him if he had a condom and he said no. I told him that nothing could go on without the condom, so he should go and buy a pack and come back. Then I remembered that I had a pack of condoms, so we decided to have sex. Unfortunately, the condom broke and I didn't realise it until long after.

I got pregnant, and to this day, my sister doesn't know that this last child is for her husband. I behave as if it is for another man. He has been supporting me with this child. I am not upset with him, but it is always on my mind that I went and had sex with my sister's husband.

The father of the other two children asked me who is the father of the child and I told him that the child is his. He knows that it is not his child, but he doesn't make an issue out of it. What do you think I should do? Anything you tell me to do, I will do.


Dear N.E.,

You didn't have to have sex with your brother-in-law. He was helping you financially, but you did not have to compensate him with sex. That was not a wise thing to do. Unfortunately, you got pregnant and now your sister would hate you if she finds out that you have a child by her husband. That is a secret you will have to keep until you die.


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