I found her dirty secrets in her book


April 12, 2018

Dear Pastor,

I am 30 years old, and for the last two years, I have been dating. But now, I don't know what to do because I recently found out some things about my girlfriend. I knew she had a child before we met. That was not an issue with me because she accepted me, and I am a father of two children.

I love this girl so much. There is nothing that I refuse to give her if she needs it.

I grew up with my grandmother, and my grandmother loves her. Sometimes when I am at my grandmother's and she is with me and I rough her up, my grandmother quarrels. My grandmother is always telling me that I should get married to her. She is of light complexion and, as you know, some older people like women who have, fair complexion.

This girl behaves as if she can't 'mash ants', but I have come to understand that I shouldn't trust her. Nobody has ever told me anything bad about her, but one day, I went to visit her. I went into her bedroom, and I saw a notebook. I decided that I would read it. I did not know that it was a notebook that she uses as her diary. I wasn't thinking anything bad. She was cooking.

When I started to read, I was shocked. While I was dating her, she was having sex with other men. Every time she had sex with one of them, she made a note of it and wrote whether the sex was good or bad.

In the two years we have been dating, she has had sex with six different men. Out of the six, she has had sex with one three times. She describes him as the best. She got money from all of them except the one she had sex with three times.

I thought I was reading a love book. I could not wait until she was finished cooking. I went into the kitchen with the notebook in my hand. When she saw me with the book, she asked me where I got it, and I asked her what was going on. She said that whatever I saw in the book should not bother me because she was done with those things.


The last time she had sex with someone else was on New Year's night when I was working. She told me that she was going to be home. She wrote in the book, "Good sex, what a way to start the New Year." Every time we had sex, she wrote it down. I wasn't aware that she was doing these things. I can't trust this girl anymore. We were planning to get married in July of this year. I told my grandmother that I have changed my mind. She wanted to know why. I told her that I will tell her very soon. I don't want to hurt my grandmother. This girl tells me that she is not doing that anymore because I promised to marry her.

The father of her child is not supporting her; I took on that responsibility. I can't even eat from her anymore. She even describes the size of the penis of one of thee guys. I go to church sometimes and whenever I go to church, I tell her what goes on at church. She said that she is not ready for church there. She says that when we get married, it will be different. I just feel that this girl is going to cheat on me, especially with the guy she loves so much.

Please tell me if I am wrong.


Dear D.O.,

I must admit that I feel very sorry for you. I know that you are not looking for sympathy from me, but I can't help feeling that your woman has let you down big time. When a woman has cheated on her man with so many partners, and at the same time, behaves as if she loves the man who she may consider to be her spouse, she is iniquitous, dangerous, and cruel. I don't need to tell you that I agree with you. You cannot trust her, and you should not accept any excuse she gives you. You ought not to hate her, but you can't trust her. And a man wants to know that he can trust his woman. She does not care about you. End the relationship with her.

Tell your grandmother that you have discovered some things about your girlfriend, and, therefore, you cannot go through with the marriage. You have no guarantee that she would not continue to have sex with other men. If you are not careful, one of these men will get her pregnant and she will 'give you the belly'. Don't give her another cent. I hope you listen.


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