My girlfriend said my penis is ugly


October 30, 2015

Dear Pastor,

I am 27 years old and I am an only child for my mother. I am still living at home.

I have had girlfriends and I have had sex with a couple of them, but now it is time for me to get married. My present girlfriend and I have never had sex. She is active in the Church and so am I, but I have shown her my private part and she says that I should go to a doctor and be circumcised because she does not like to see the foreskin on my penis. She says it looks ugly. I felt embarrassed and was sorry I showed it to her. No sex can go on unless I get circumcised, she said

Is circumcision safe, pastor?


Dear P.S.,

A male can be circumcised at any age. Your girlfriend is insisting that you do this minor operation. It is not a big deal, but that decision is strictly yours. Some women prefer to have sex with men who are circumcised, while others prefer men who were not circumcised. There are advantages and disadvantages in both.

The purpose of the foreskin of the penis is to cover the glans which is the tip of the penis.

When a man is uncircumcised he should take special care in cleaning his penis when having a bath.

Again I say, removing the foreskin of your penis is entirely up to you. But if you want to please your woman, be prepared to spend some money and be circumcised. Evidently this woman wants to see a very attractive penis and according to what you said she told you, yours is ugly. If you plan to marry her as you said, perhaps you should not fight he issue.


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