My boyfriend left because I got pregnant


March 01, 2016

Dear Pastor,

I am so stressed out and depressed. I am three months pregnant for my boyfriend. He told me that he is not interested in me or his unborn child so I should just leave him alone and move on with my life. He said he won't help me with anything such as buying medications, paying for the ultrasound or blood tests. I also have endometriosis. It is very painful. Medications don't help at all. I just have to live with the pain until I give birth and do surgery afterwards. I am not working now, but my mother always provide something for me to eat. I am so hurt. It's not easy to be a single parent and to raise a child on my own. Everyone has turned their backs on me. I am on the verge of committing suicide. I can't take the stress anymore. I can't eat or sleep. My life is sad and full of mistakes.

I also found out that my boyfriend has another babymother. The child is one month old. I never knew he was having sex with both of us at the same time. I got pregnant while taking the birth-control pill. I don't know what to do. He used to treat me well, but upon hearing about my pregnancy everything started to change. His child's mother often texts me, telling me how he is spending money on her and her baby and my child is going to suffer like a dog. He always call the other babymother. I need your advice. When I have my baby I will seek a job. I can't stop crying. My heart is burning with pain. Please keep me in your prayers. I would really appreciate if I could get some clothes and pampers for a newborn baby from anyone you know who is willing to help me. I don't know the sex of the baby as yet.


Dear S.T.,

The man who got you pregnant is very wicked. He doesn't respect you. He is heartless. You said you were taking the Pill and you got pregnant. Perhaps you slipped up. Perhaps you did not take it according to instructions. This man evidently is blaming you. He is behaving as a silly man and I want to encourage you to take him to court after the child is born and speak the truth. But be prepared to defend yourself because he is likely to lie. Just tell the magistrate that you would prefer if he would pay the money to the court because the men often lie and say that they gave the mothers of the children the money directly. But if the money is paid to the court he will receive a receipt.

If anyone is willing to help you, I will contact you. Trust in the good Lord. Ignore the other young woman. When she texts you, don't respond. Thank God for your mother, who has been helping you. May the good Lord bless her.


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