My sister's man keeps hitting on me
I am a long-time reader of your column, and now your programme doesn't miss me. I am 30 years old and my boyfriend is 35. My boyfriend works in a supermarket. I am a day's worker. We don't have children. We would like to get children some day. I work four days a week and we share house with one of my sisters and her husband.
My sister's husband loves me and sometimes when I am there alone, he shows up when he should be at work. I asked him why he loves me and he is with my sister. He said that from the first time he saw me, he fell in love with me. I am afraid to say it to my sister or my boyfriend. I know my sister would ask him and my boyfriend would do the same.
I told my boyfriend that we should seek another place to live, he can't understand why because we have our own bedroom and bathroom; the only thing we share is the kitchen. When my sister and I are in the kitchen, her husband doesn't come in there, but when I am alone he finds reasons to come there often. We are only paying $15,000 a month. Somehow my boyfriend doesn't want to move. I told this man that if he ever tries to rape me I will chop him up.
Do you think I should tell my sister and my boyfriend that this guy is harassing me? My boyfriend is so easily angered, I can see him getting into a fight with this guy. I don't want him to get into trouble.
Dear T. U.,
I suggest that you try and convince your boyfriend that both of you should move quietly. Don't make any fuss; make sure you find a place that is self-contained. Do not inform your sister or your boyfriend that this man has been making passes at you. Your sister may or may not believe you. Your boyfriend may call you a liar and even go further, by saying that you might have had sex with this guy. So be wise, look for a place where you can live on your own.