Is he worth it, pastor?


June 27, 2016

Dear Pastor,

Thanks for your reply to my previous letter. Nothing has changed between my boyfriend and me since the last time I wrote to you. His mother is a very influential part of his extended family and she doesn't like me, so I get the feeling that none of his family members likes me either. I know he loves me, but I think if he comes back to me, he will feel as if he's choosing me over his mom. In addition to that, he might resent me for it.

He is very upset about me writing to you and thinks it is a "careless gyal" approach. I really don't care what he thinks. My life is in shambles because he can't make up his mind as to where he wants to be. I can't spend the rest of my life waiting on a man who can't be man enough to his mom. I'm not saying he should be disrespectful, but at some point in his life he's going to have to have backbone and stand up to his mom.

Last year, she called my phone and insulted me. When I said it to him, he made it seem like nothing. She has been very disrespectful towards me. Is he worth it, Pastor, or should I walk away with what little pride and dignity I have left?


Dear T.B.,

Walk away from this man. You would never be happy in that family. You are not a doormat and should not be treated as such. Lift your head high. Consider this man dead. Give yourself time. God will provide a better man for you.


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