My brother and I had sex with the same girl

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July 06, 2016

Dear Pastor,

I am 24. I have a brother who is 27. Both of us had sex with a 19-year-old girl. I did not know that my brother had sex with her.

She is a country girl who came to Kingston to spend time with her relatives.

I became friendly with her, and one day I went out and got hamburger and invited her to my room. She came and I asked her if she had a boyfriend and she said no.

I asked her for sex and she did not resist. We had sex. That is the only time I had sex with this girl. My brother took her out to the movies and when I saw her a few days after, I asked her how it went and she said they didn't spend much time at the movies. My brother took her to a guest house and had sex with her.

I asked her if they used a condom and she said no, but he did not discharge in her, he pulled out. She said that she did not tell him that we had sex.

She went back to country. I gave her $500 when she was leaving. Pastor, she called me and told me she is pregnant and she does not know which of us got her pregnant, but it might be me because I did not pull out. I don't know what to say about this.

I feel so bad because she is the same age as one of my sisters, and I would not want to see anybody get my sister pregnant. I am looking forward to hearing from you.

C.N.

Dear C.N.

First of all, let me encourage you to talk to your brother about what this girl has said to you. Both of you are adults. Both of you had sex with a very naOve and sheltered girl.

She did not even insist that both of you should use a condom. She gave you sex after you bought her a hamburger. Perhaps she had never had a hamburger before. I do not say that with disrespect.

I suppose that you did not expect her to have sex with your brother. And he might not have expected you to have sex with her, but both of you saw her as a prey and went after her.

I suppose he told her that he would withdraw and not discharge in her. I must tell you that even when a man practises the withdrawal method it is still likely for him to impregnate a woman. It is not a safe method.

Though this method is widely used, it is very unreliable. It has a high failure rate. One of you got her pregnant. So both of you should talk about it and agree that after she has given birth, a DNA test should be done to see which one of you impregnated her, and both of you should support her and the child.

Pastor

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