My boyfriend sister is very ungrateful


August 16, 2016

Dear Pastor,

I have been living with a man for the past three years. We are not married, but most people think we are because of the way we live. He is 30 years old and I am 35.

He has a sister who was not working and he asked me if she could come and live with us until she was able to get a job. I told him that was all right with me. The house we live in is mine. He helps me to pay the mortgage, but he did not put in any money when I was buying the house.

We were not together at that time. I don't have anything bad to say about him. He treats me well. He is a little jealous, but I know that I am not doing anything and I try to knock the jealousy out his head. I have caught him searching my phone and I pretended that I didn't know what he was doing.

When his sister came to stay with us, she would lie down in bed until late. I told her that she could not get a job if she did not get up and go out and seek one.

She told her brother that I am miserable and it seems as if I don't want her in my house. Her brother told me what she said, so I confronted her in his presence and she tried to wiggle herself out of the situation by saying that is not what she meant. Her brother told her that he believed me. We never asked this girl for any money. She became ill and was hospitalised. We had all the running up and down to do and I had to help her brother pay the bills for her.

When she was discharged from the hospital, her brother took her home because we did not have anybody to stay with her. I washed this girl's clothes and did everything for her, and not even once has she said 'thank you'.

Her boyfriend came back from America and they got married. Both of them are now living together. She has never sent me a pin. I was not expecting anything from her, but what I was expecting was a card or letter saying thanks. She is very ungrateful; that is why some women don't like in-laws to live with them.


Dear R.I.,

Don't worry; you have done your very best for this young woman. Give thanks that you were able to do so. Whatever you did for her was out of love. She is ungrateful, but don't allow what she has done to prevent you from helping others. Your blessings might not come to you from her, but they may come from unexpected sources. So keep strong and wish her the very best in life.


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