My wife is not interested in sex


September 24, 2016

Dear Pastor,

I am 45 years old and my wife is 36. We have one child and we have our own home. Over the last few years my wife has been turned off from sex. I have tried my best to get her interested but she isn't, I asked my wife if she has another man with me and she said no.

I don't see any sign of her keeping another man with me. The only thing left for me to do is to put a private investigator to watch her, but I can spend my money in a better way. I have never been unfaithful to my wife. I have been tempted to do so and I said it to my wife, and she told me that it is up to me. I don't understand this woman. I can't tell anybody that she doesn't treat me well. She takes care of my clothes and my food, but when it comes to sex she is not interested. This woman would see me as hard as a rock and it wouldn't bother her. I cannot live with this anymore. Do you think that she has a man? Would you suggest that I divorce her?


Dear D.W.,

I do not know what has caused your wife to react this way and why, according to you, "she is turned off from sex". She is only 36 years old and at that age she should be sexually active and far from slowing down. She doesn't want to have sex at all, and that is so unusual.

Perhaps she finds you unattractive. Sometimes men can become very careless, they overeat and develop a 'big pot belly' and the women can't deal with them. The only thing I would suggest to you is that you and your wife go and get professional help. I am sure she is aware that you are suffering in silence, and if she is still interested in the marriage she should not object to getting professional help.


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