Don't want to attend my Christian boyfriend's church


October 24, 2016

Dear Pastor,

I am 43 years old and my friend is 38. We are not living together. We have a visiting relationship. He has three children and I have two. He is now a Christian and he is about to be baptised.

He is going ahead of me because I do not go to church. I used to go to church when I was younger, but since I opened a bar about 15 years ago, I have stopped going to church.

My children go sometimes. I don't know what to do with my bar because this is my life.

This man says that he wants us to get married because he is serious about serving God. I am not against that. I told him that I am not going to stop him, but he wants us to go to church together.

I do not like the church he attends, so that is another problem. I am not prepared to leave him.

I know he is serious about his church because he came to visit me and was in my room when I took off my clothes and went into the bathroom, had my shower and came out, dried myself and went to lie down on my bed expecting him to come to bed, but he told me he had to leave.

This was the man who couldn't resist seeing me naked. I asked him why he had to go. It was late Saturday night and he said that he had to go to church on Sunday.

I asked him if he is seeing anybody in the church and he said no, I am the one he loves. I have made up my mind to marry him, but not to join that church. I told him so.

I want to know if you would do the wedding for us. I do not want another man in my life because we have been together for a long while.


Dear S.B.,

This man is serious about getting baptised and serving the Lord and you should not do anything to stand in his way. I know you are not. I am only saying to you to free him up.

You do not want him to leave you and find another woman. Both of you have been going too long to break up now.

I understand that you do not want to attend his church, but he doesn't want to leave it. You have raised the concern about the work you do. That should not prevent the both of you from getting married.

I will be happy to officiate at your wedding as soon as you put plans together. Call my office and make an appointment to see me. The numbers are: (876) 929-1667 or cell phone (876) 877-1009.


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