Don't see a future with my conductor boyfriend


November 01, 2016

Dear Pastor,

I am a 17-year-old girl who is currently in lower 6 at a traditional high school.

Sometime ago, I met a conductor who is 23 years old and we began talking. Five weeks later, we became intimate. We've been together for almost four months now. I love him and it's not because I can get free drive.

I don't even take the bus he works on. He told me that he wants to have a future with me, but I am worried sick because I am not seeing where that is possible. What can I do?


Dear S. S.,

What you can do is to keep yourself quiet and concentrate on your school work. You are only 17 years old, and you shouldn't be talking about having a man and he has promised to marry you. That is nonsense!

I know that any man who is working as a conductor would take pride in having a teenage girl who is still in high school as his girlfriend. His friends will "big him up", so to speak, and tell him he has ambition.

You should so conduct yourself to make your parents be proud of you. I want to ask you this question: Why do you think that you are the only girlfriend this conductor has?

Common sense should tell you that lots of high school girls are glad to go on the buses of conductors to get free rides. You don't ride on his bus, but there are others who do.

The relationship that you are having with this man is only four months old, and if you are not careful, he will use you as often as you make yourself available and dump you. This 23-year-old man is just a hustler. Stop being intimate with him, and I repeat, concentrate on your lessons.


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