TELL ME PASTOR: I am afraid of losing girlfriend
I am a 27-year-old male. I have been in a relationship with this woman for little over two years. Everything was going well from the first time I met her. When I met her, she was in a line of work that I considered demeaning and I took my time and got her out of that job. We lived together and all was well for the most part.
One day everything changed. I started to abuse her, lie to her and I cheated on her. It's like I don't know what I am doing. Each time she leaves, I break down. I can't eat or sleep, and all I do is drink. I seek attention from friends and that leads to more than just advice, but that just causes more problems. I know I love this girl and I think she loves me, but I don't know why everything I try turns out wrong?
Please help me.
You say that you love this woman, but you have not done anything that shows her that you really do love her and that you respect her. You have constantly abused her and you behave as if you have to the right to control her. The promises you have made to her from time to time mean nothing to her, absolutely nothing.
This woman is not a fool. She knows a good man when she sees him. I am sure she is grateful for what you have done for her. I believe, however, that if you are serious about having a strong relationship with this woman, both of you should make an appointment with a family counselor and when you go to see him/her, tell them the whole truth.