Had to leave crazy boyfriend


November 21, 2016

Dear Pastor,

When I was 17 years old, I met a man and we became friends. I told my brother about him. I don't have sisters, only one brother. I met him just three months before I was 18.

When I was 18, he bought me a cell phone for my birthday. I was happy because the one I had was not good.

I lost the phone in a bus. I had it in my hand when I went into the bus, but when I came off the bus and was on my way home, I realised that the phone was gone. I thought that I had put it in my bag, but it was not there.

My boyfriend was very annoyed. He called me careless. He bought me another phone, but it was not as good. When he spoke to me about the phone and was fussing about it, I started to cry. He held me in his arms and I was sobbing. He said it was all right, but I knew it was not all right.

When he brought me the second phone, we went out and I found out that he has 10 children with seven different women. He said that all the girls he met cheated on him, so he hoped that I would not cheat.

When I got home, I told my mother about the number of children he had. My mother told me that I should give him back his phone and stop talking to him, and I should not go out with him anymore because he might get me pregnant.

We did not have sex, but he kissed me several times. I wrote him and told him that I did not like him anymore, so I could not see him anymore. He threatened me, and my brother got involved.

He told me the only way he would let me go is if I have sex with him. Anywhere I went, my brother was there to meet me and to take me home. He started to tell people that I was having sex with my brother.

Pastor, my brother is a bad man and my brother started to walk with a knife and threatened to stab him. He backed off and left me alone.

I am happy to get him out of my life. I have a nice boyfriend now. He doesn't have any money, but he is trying. He gives me what he can. He is 24 years old and a Christian.

T. M.

Dear T. M.,

I am glad that your brother did not get into a fight with this man. It is unfortunate that you lost the cell phone that this man gave you, but that loss caused you to get to know the type of temperament the man has.

I am also glad that the relationship is over and I hope that your new boyfriend would treat you with respect. And if, indeed, he is a good man, both of you would get married when you are ready.

Marriage is not something you should rush into, so make sure you get some education.


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