I think my dad is cheating on my mom


November 30, 2016

Dear Pastor,

This is the first time I am writing to you and I am hoping that you will give me good advice. I am 16 years old and I am the only child for my parents.

My mother is away at present, so my cousin and I are here with my father. My cousin is 25 years old. She is not very well, but she is well enough to take care of the home and cook for us. My father pays her $7,000 a week.

My mother has a friend and she and Daddy get along well. I did not suspect them of doing anything. Whenever she bakes, she sends over a cake.

When she goes to the country and she gets breadfruit and other things, she would let us have some. My cousin told me that she saw a letter that this lady wrote to my father.

She told him that she loves him and he must keep it a secret between them.


This woman is not married, but she is very active in church and she has three children. My cousin did not show me the letter; she said she put it back where she saw it.

My father had put the letter on the night table. I asked her to show me that letter, but when she went to look for it, it was gone.

My father and I get along very well, but I am afraid to ask him about this lady because he is going to question me and I don't want to get my cousin involved.

I don't want him to know that she told me about them. Pastor, my daddy loves my mother. She is only away for a short time.

I know that she would ask the woman why is it that she won't leave my father alone. My cousin says that she said in the letter that she would like for them to go out.

What do you think I should do, Pastor? Should I tell my mother or should I ask my father whether he is interested in this woman?

Please for your advice. Whatever you say I will do.


Dear U.R.,

Leave this matter alone. Don't ask your father anything about this woman. Bear in mind that your cousin ought not to have read the letter.

And it does not even appear that your father is intimate with this woman. It is evident that she likes him and she has written to him, but your cousin ought not to have read his letter.

Men see women and admire them and wish that they could be intimate with them. Sometimes they become secret admirers, but that is where it stops.

This woman is clearly showing interest in your father. Whether he would respond to her is another matter.

Right now, you should tell your cousin to keep her mouth shut and say nothing to your mother, and you should not say anything to your mother or father either.

You may say that you have a right to say something to your mother, but all I am trying to tell you is that if you do not keep quiet, the relationship between your mother and father could break up because your mother will ask your father what is going on with this woman and himself.

Tell your cousin not to read any correspondence that she sees addressed to your father because if your father finds out, he would ask her to leave.


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