I need to have an abortion


November 10, 2017
A woman holds a fetus doll in the palm of her hand.

Dear Pastor,

This is the first time I am writing to you, and I need your help. I am writing with tears in my eyes. I just turned 18 years old, and I have a matter to put to you. I have a boyfriend. He is 23 years old. He has a taxi, but he doesn't drive it. Somebody works it for him. He has a job, and I have been in a relationship with him since I was 15 years old.

My mother knew that I had a boyfriend because my older sister found out and told her. My mother searched my phone and found out that it is true. I did not know that my mother had gone in my phone, but she went in there and saw some rude stuff that he sent to me, and from that day my mother stopped giving me money to go to school.

One day, my mother called me and my older sister and she asked my sister if she was "taking man" and my sister said no. She asked me and I said no. She looked at me and said, "Well, I know that you are taking man because I know what I know." I said to her, "Mom, I am still a virgin." She said she was glad to know. All that time, I did not know that my mother went in my phone.

After I left for school, she told my sister that she saw some out-of-order things in my phone and she is going to kill me with beating. I was afraid that she would beat me while I was sleeping, so I left and was staying with some friends. I told my sister where I was going. My sister told my mother why I left, but I did not stay with my friends, I went to stay with my boyfriend.

To cut a long story short, my boyfriend got his taxi driver to take me to and from school every day. The guy was getting too friendly with me and my boyfriend warned him. My boyfriend and I used to use the condom, but not all the time, and now I am pregnant. I want to throw away the child because my dream is to be an engineer and this will keep me back. My boyfriend said that he is not giving me money to throw away the pregnancy. If I had the money, I would do it secretly. He told me that if I throw away the pregnancy, he is going to leave me.

Please, help me.


Dear S.L.,

I can only encourage you to carry your pregnancy, and after you have given birth, return to school. I suggest also that you ask this young man to accompany you to go home and see your mother. Ask your mother pardon for leaving the house without her permission. Let your boyfriend assure your mother that he will help you to prepare for the baby. Your mother is going to be very angry. Don't try to argue with her.

Please, I repeat, do not terminate this pregnancy.


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